The first and most important birth is to my first baby, a daughter. In about 2 weeks, give or take (hopefully take), the Non-Scotsman and I will welcome her into our arms and home and begin a relationship that I can not yet even imagine.
For her, every moment will be a first impression. Maybe that's why we sit in her nursery and re-arrange toys and artwork, or why I spent about 2 hours picking out the perfect plant. It's why we painted and scrubbed and chose a fresh peach and gold color palate:
Perhaps that explains why I spent a fortune on a candle just to make sure the room smelled of nectarine blossom and honey. Or why we debated over and over about the texture/fabric of her first outfit, or why I panicked when I found out Jamie Young's Lotus lamp was out of stock - only to be swept into thankful relief when a talented friend surprised us by making it for us:
We want her first moments to be absolutely, completely lovely.
And yet, the reality is we can not control much more than the aesthetics of the setting and our own hearts towards her. She will experience the reality of the trauma of the birthing process. She will not always be comfortable and every single first moment will be a shocking experience of newness and change.
Her first impressions will be just that: HERS. So, as much as I brand and design and re-arrange and plan for her first impressions of the world, at the real first moment of meeting I have to simply step back and observe how and what she takes in. I create a space for her, yes, but in the end I must truly create space - space for her to be her and to experience life as she will.
This brings me to my second birthing process: opening up my private practice as a psychotherapist.
|(No, this is not my real office .... yet)|
Again, every client who walks through my door, or clicks on my website (coming soon), will be experiencing a thoughtfully planned first impression. Each little detail has been fussed over: colors and fonts, forms and fees, windows and textures. I want to set a tone of comfort, compassion, and professionalism, and I am doing everything in my power to convey those values - including trying to emulate the SOFIA brand:
Yet, just like with Baby Girl, I can do my best to set a tone through my brand - but the way they experience it is entirely their own. And really, I am setting an atmosphere where they will be free to become uncomfortable and where change can happen.
I am creating a space that invites them to take up their own space.