3.31.2010
3.24.2010
2 Hours for Peeps
I really can't believe I spent two hours yesterday trying to form the word "Peeps" out of tiny scraps of paper! Inspired by Yulia Brodskaya (from my last post) and an Easter snack on the counter, this project was fantastically fun for some reason. It also provided the time to listen through quite a few of Esquire's Best New Songs in 2010.
3.19.2010
Yulia, Yulia
3.14.2010
Generosity
I’m reading about it in Dostovesky’s first novel, Poor Folk. Two lovers are writing letters across the ghetto alleyway. He has forsaken the everyday luxury of tea to be able to send her geraniums.
Generosity is something I admire more than almost any other quality, and I am surrounded by friends and family who have it in droves.
I watched my mama give away a bag of groceries she just bought, simply because the other person needed it too.
I was fed a delicious dinner by a friend who doesn’t have a job.
Someone let me go before them in the checkout line because I am only buying one item.
I watched friends give an orphaned child a home.
(Witnessing the moment of a lifetime, Ethiopia, 2009)
I saw it at the dump in Phnom Penh when two boys – scrounging in fresh garbage for plastic bags or aluminum to sell for a fraction of a penny - shared their stickers.
(A boy I fell in love with, Cambodia 2007)
Nature displayed it when a mother elephant moved to the back of the family line to protect her baby.
(Elephant crossing, Kenya 2010)
I heard Gary Haugen speak at an International Justice Mission dinner I attended last week on the topic of generosity. He phrased something in a way I’ve never heard before. He said we all rely on generosity to survive. From the moment we are born, we are dependant on at least one other human being’s kindness (a mother) for survival and care. He said, "generosity is an invitation to greatness - greatness of heart and the larger reality."
I admire the open-handed life, the one that receives good and gives good without reserve. They’re like these endless sources of geraniums.
A generous person is not afraid of lack, because they are connected to an endless supply.
A generous person has courage and believes the way they love is stronger than pain and loss.
I experience generosity every day, and I’m learning it’s more than about giving money. It’s giving a moment to let my heart be tugged, to stop and say, “Wow. You, and your hurts and needs, matter to ME. Let me care.”
3.13.2010
Laundry at the Beach
We cleansed our condo. One of those cleanings, the ones that leave your home a fresh sanctuary and palate for life.
I was struck by a memory of my hard-working mom saying, “There are a few things I can do: the cleaning, the laundry, and the driving.” A woman of many skills, she said this often, because at least 4 loads of dirty laundry piled up every single day! Every day, every day. With 5 kids, it was never over, but she did it because, for life in the family to keep working, it needed doing.
I am not so gracious; I quickly become a vexed experts at the daily chores of my life, a begrudging master of the ordinary.
I read from a monk this week who understood that much of our lives are spent getting tasks out of the way in order to get to real life: enjoyment and peace.
Scrub the toilet so you can finally sink into your couch with a cup of tea.
Do the dishes so you can run out the door for a cocktail. Get through! Get 'er done!
However, if I harshly and spastically scrub the toilet, how will I suddenly calm down and onto this sacred place on the couch? This revered monastic said we will never find peace in that cup of tea if we don’t also find it in the simple, mundane duties of the day.
What a refreshed idea: to soak into our chores because they can be a spiritual and useful practice - a place to connect - instead of rushing frantically through to the other side. The chores are our lives; the mopping, dishes, laundry, garbage duty and re-organizing. There is so much that is unknown, uncertain, but you know that when you start with a mop and bucket you will walk away from a sparkling floor. Satisfaction. Job well done.
For me, it was buying a cute pair of green rubber gloves.
What will make your daily tasks more enjoyable? Why not slow down a bit and make them a conscious, satisfying, slow part of your day?
3.12.2010
3.08.2010
Go for the Dough
3.05.2010
The Oxford Comma
I asked a friend to recommend a book, any book. I laughed out loud when I saw the title: Eats, Shoots, and Leaves: The Zero Tolerance Approach to Punctuation!
I’ve never met an author so passionate, so mischievously marvelous, about the laws of punctuation. She admits to sabotaging signs with a can of spray paint to reme
dy their erroneous markings, raising high her rousing cry, “Sticklers unite!”
A former editor, author Lynne Truss dares to tell us, in her sarcastic and very British manner, that it is time we understood the severity of the situation: punctuation is going to die a horrific death on the internet if we don’t pay attention. Relying on “Spell checks” and “Grammar checks” that don’t know the rules of the sentence, we are losing the power that a well-placed semicolon can impart.
The main message I took from this book is that punctuation has evolved over the years; many “rules” have changed over the years and vary between the Motherland and the New World. The original point of it all, however, was to inform an orator how to speak to his audience in order to make his point perfectly. Punctuation tells people to stop. To go! To wait: to wait: and to wait for it. It insinuates and asks for drama! Does your punctuation simply follow rules (I confess I am still learning them), or does it convey to your reader exactly the meaning and emotions you intend?
For example:
A woman, without her man, is nothing.
A woman: without her, man is nothing.
A final note: when using a comma to separate multiple descriptors, either of the following two versions are acceptable:
The American Comma: The flag is red, white and blue.
The Oxford Comma: The flag is red, white, and blue.
3.03.2010
Keep the Fire Burnin'!
(The Hwy 99 Blues Club, 2010)
I had no idea we were in for a private blues concert. Seriously, we were the only people in the joint except for two lonely guys at the bar and a married couple dancing off to the side of the stage. The Non-Scotsman and I sat directly in front of the stage – front and center.
(The Jimmy Holden Band, 2010)
The 3 musicians immediately let us know that although there were only six of us in the room, we were the most beautiful and interesting six people in Seattle - and we were in the right place.
(Bandmates on a break, 2010)
The best part of the night was when the candle on our table went out. The Non-Scotsman reached over to the adjacent table to replace it, causing Jimmy himself to look up inquisitively from his keyboard. Eyebrows raised, he silently demanded an explanation for the movement from the table. The Non-Scotsman saw the question, and explained that “our candle went out. Just grabbin’ another.”
(The Non-Scotsman, 2010)
Jimmy grinned from ear to ear, tipped his head back, and half-sung, half-yelled, “Don’t let that fire go out!”
Suddenly the whole band had picked it up. Steve, the drummer, started yelling out “Keep the fire burnin’! Keep the fire burnin’!” Jimmy was preaching over him, “Don’t you dare let that flame go out!”
I was in tears from laughing after about 2 minutes of this. For a $5.00 cover we got a private show – and the best marriage advice in years.